Gender, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation
Homophobia and heterosexism are unfortunately permeating the world of childrens toys, media, and literature in ways we must be more aware of. In looking for positive and negative examples of sexual orientation in childrens literature and media, what I discovered was that it was difficult to find any mainstream items portraying homosexual parents in any normalizing way. Even as much forward progress toward acceptance we've made as a society, when it comes to children, we are still modeling almost exclusively hetero examples for them. This part of many children's social identity, as a child of two moms or two dads, is nearly invisible commercially. What is present in terms of modeling are examples such as these:
Barbie can be bought separately, but the messaging is
clear here, she is supposed to marry Ken. This is what both the dolls and the
Barbie cartoon consistently adhere to in the storyline and marketing. Even in
trolls, an otherwise positive motivational movie, both the main trolls, and the
villains are looking for love in the opposite gender. With both examples, the
idea is not to sexualize the toys, as students receive messages they form an
opinion about their own bodies and choices, and we must work to support both
child and family without judgement (Derman-Sparks and Edwards, 2010). While
these two examples are not explicitly telling children they cannot find love
outside of heterosexual relationships, they are not modeling the diverse
backgrounds that the kids buying the toys or watching the movies come from.
This same homophobia is present in the schools as
well. We had a situation at school where one student had two moms, and they
were quite active in his education. They walked him into class every morning
and checked in with the teacher about his day every afternoon. One of his moms
was the first to volunteer any time the classroom needed help. They made sure
he was on track and advocated for his needs. When they would leave in the
mornings, and when referring to these moms in conversation at the school, the teachers
referred to his "rainbow mommies". This was not a term of affection.
This term was an identifier, a way of othering, making them out of the
"normal" parents who came to school, and also something some of the
teachers found funny. I am sure this little boy would not appreciate his mothers
referred to as "rainbow mommies", as evidenced by the term only being
used behind their backs. This is the kind of cultural exclusion that must be
overcome in a school.
Students catch on to terms used by adults quite
easily, and the word gay is no exception. A former student, whom I will call
Alan for the purposes of this blog, was unique in his mannerisms. He was funny,
outspoken, full of charisma, and could sing beautifully although in a higher
pitch voice. He also danced constantly, always dressed more fancy than his
peers, and would walk with a swagger that no one else in class had. The other children
did not appreciate him and would mock his mannerisms calling him gay. This
shows how the stereotyping of gay men so fully permeates the dominant culture
that students come up with their views based on what they see and hear around
them. What I found interesting though, was the response from his classroom
teacher and those on the teaching team. The video, Start seeing diversity: Sexual orientation (Laureate, 2011)
instructs us to keep our beliefs outside the classroom and focus on building up
the students ready to face the real world. In this situation, however, the
conversation became what do we do to support him because maybe he is gay. It
strikes me that the teachers and students were making the same assumptions,
with neither having any insight, about an 8-year-old boy who has not shared
with anyone or is not yet even aware himself yet of his preferences. Why would
we as teachers focus on supporting him as potentially homosexual, thereby
making the same stereotypical assumptions that we were clearly not making about
any other child in class. In order to support divergent thinking, then, we must
be cognizant of those assumptions and our everyday biases (Laureate, 2011). What
we should have discussed was how to educate all the students on the concept
that not every student who enjoys performing is homosexual, and that we work as
a community include all students without judging them. That would have instead
moved children toward challenging the stereotypes and at least talking them
through (Harro, 2010). We continue to have hurdles to cross, work to do, and
challenges to reflect on ourselves when it comes to gender, identity, and
orientation.
Reference:
Derman-Sparks,
L., & Olsen Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and
ourselves. Washington, DC: NAEYC.
Harro,
B. (2010). The cycle of socialization. In M. Adams, W. Blumenfeld, C.
Castaneda, H. W. Hackman, M. L. Peters, & X. Zuniga (Eds.), Readings for
diversity and social justice (Figure 6.1 on p. 46, 2nd ed.). New York, NY:
Routledge.
Laureate
Education (Producer). (2011). Start seeing diversity: Gender [Video file].
Retrieved from https://class.waldenu.edu
Laureate Education
(Producer). (2011). Start seeing diversity: Sexual orientation [Video file].
Retrieved from https://class.waldenu.edu
Hey Jessica! I enjoyed reading your blog for this week. I agree that there's not any books in early childhood centers that depicts homosexuals. There are books on deaths, friendship, family, and etc. But there's not any books on gays and lesbians. I wonder why? I also like the story you told about the two parents, which were females and how they were involved in their child's education. It's crazy that a same sex couples are more involved in their child's education than parents who are straight.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your post, Jessica. I feel frightened, especially about the example of "rainbow moms". There is still label for those who are "different". What about a mom and a dad called "rainbow mom and dad"? . The most important thing is actually compassion.
ReplyDeleteIn our culture it is still difficult to accept if our own child is gay, more or less because we are afraid of the public punishment.
Hi Jessica,
ReplyDeleteGreat Post!!!!! Your completely right the children who have same sex parents are being exposed to their homestyle. They only see what people consider being the right lifestyle in children's television shows and toys. Children are sponges and they repeat whatever they hear for example, when adults are calling other people gay they think that it's ok to call others gay.
Dominique